Children vs Vegetables: It doesn’t have to be the fight of the century
At breakfast the other morning, my almost six year old daughter asked my husband and I what vegetables she and her brother had yet to try. My husband and I looked at each other, and there were several minutes of silence as we both ticked off in our heads what vegetables we had exposed our children to on a regular basis: Broccoli, yes. Brussels Sprouts, yes. Carrots, yes. Spinach, yes. Asparagus, yes. Beets, yes. Artichokes, yes. And on it went. I finally came up with cauliflower, to which both our son and daughter replied “What’s that?”, so I knew I had hit on something. I had to think, though: Why cauliflower? I realized then that cauliflower is a veggie you eat raw instead of cooked. I wish I could say that I keep a selection of raw veggies on hand, but alas, I don’t. My raw veggie collection consists of carrots, and sometimes celery and radish. Something to work on, I guess.
However, how did my children become so versed in vegetables? More importantly, though: when we sit down for dinner, they eat their vegetables without complaint. Vegetables that have not been covered in cheese, or are accompanied by dipping sauce, or made into scenery, or slathered in butter, or smashed into Macaroni and Cheese, or cooked into Brownies. And they have done so for years. How did my son and daughter get like this? Two words: Feeling Successful.
As we introduced veggies into my son’s diet at five months of age, Eric eagerly accepted them. However, when we started to create our own baby food out of veggies we bought, times got a little rough. I’ll admit it: we bribed him with natural apple sauce by hiding a green bean under it on a spoon. Yes, we switched back and forth from natural apple sauce to a veggie with each bite. As he got closer to two years old, though, he turned into the typical boy, and just ate everything put in front of him, without the natural apple sauce bribe. He was easy. Our daughter, not so much. Emma caught onto the apple sauce trick fairly quickly, and although she would take the spoon with the hidden veggie underneath the apple sauce, that veggie rode it’s way out of her mouth soon afterward. We fought her for two years before my mom suggested an idea she read in her Pilates book: Children respond to the numbers of their age. So, one night at dinner, I served Emma two green beans, and told her she needed to eat them because “She was two years old”, and left it at that. She ate them! Wholeheartedly! We slowly built from there: two green beans at first, followed by two piles of two green beans a couple of months later, etc. When she turned three, her portions automatically when up, without her having a problem with it. It was magic! And this works with ANYTHING! “You may have three pretzels because you are three years old”, says parent. “Okay!”, says kid. You may have four jelly beans for dessert because you are four years old”, says parent. “Okay!”, says kid. “You need to have five bites of dinner because you’re five years old”, says parent. “Okay…”, says kid. It’s amazing! And through it, Emma felt successful: she finished her veggies like a big girl, and earned dessert (we’re old school in our house: dessert is earned by eating all of your dinner. If it wasn’t dessert, it would be served with dinner, wouldn’t it?). By feeling successful with vegetables, children eat more of them, and become healthier for it.
Four Christmases ago, my grandma bought me an “all the rage” cookbook about how to hide vegetables in everyday meals so that one’s children would get their needed daily intake of vegetables. It’s a great idea in theory; I mean, hidden vegetables are better than no vegetables at all, right? Not necessarily. When you hide vegetables, they become something to be feared and disliked. Children, just as adults, need to grow into their relationship with veggies, and a mutual respect needs to be earned. How does that happen when veggies are hidden where they can’t be smelled, tasted, and seen? How does a child learn that they need vegetables if none ever appear on their plate? The simple answer is that they don’t. Liberate the hidden veggies out of meals and put them on the plate where they can be seen! Whole and beautiful! (even if it is two pieces at at time if your child is two years old). The best relationships start slowly and build over time. If you start slowly now with your children, you will more than likely have Veggie Lovin’ and Respectin’ adults on your hands when they are grown. Is there any better gift to give your future grandchildren?